Monday, August 3, 2009

Michael Stoddard=Spiritual Abuser!

This blog is to help warn all people in the East Hartford, Connecticut area. New Testament Baptist Church in East Hartford CT. 111 Ash St. is a dangerous church with hard line legalistic issues. They have a christian school. Beware! At first all seems ideal. Your child will soon have some problems that you may have to get a psychiatrist to pull out of them. Intimidation and fear is used to control the kids and teachers. A fear of a tyrant god who will hurt you if you fall into disobedience. I spent 10 years as a member and 5 years on staff. Please read the book, The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse, by David Johnson & Jeff VanVonderen if you have or are currently attending or working there. You will be amazed how abused you have been and didn't even know it. There are some great blogs on Thoughts.com. Go to that site. Register, go to groups and look up Micheal Stoddard. Read the blogs. See what this man and his wife have done. They have tried and succeeded in splitting up marriages. Usually the husband has had enough and he leaves first, then MS gets a hold of the wife. He tells her your spouse is going to ruin your christian family. Then he attempts to take over the role of the husband. He does this with kindness and sweetness. It is done behind the husbands back and in his absence. Many husbands are very angry about this. Careful michael, Careful. What you have said in private for so many years is now about to be exposed on the internet. He and his wife are kind. He is charismatic, fun and funny to be around at first. He physically threatened me 3 times. Grabbing my tie and pulling me towards his face. Then speaking to me in rage and anger. He told me one day on the phone he was going to "kick my a.." Yea that was my pastor and spiritual leader at one time. He mocked me personally and my father (who was a priest) publicly and privately. My friends lost their homes, marriages, credit and stopped walking with the Lord because of his destructive influence on their lives.
If you can please blog here or thoughts.com. The world needs to here your story. For you it will be therapeutic. Writing your story helps the healing process. You are not alone. Others have gone through similar or worst. The kids who went to NTBC school in the 90's have some deep scars. newtestamentbaptistchurch.com is their website. Its nice, pristine, inviting. Spiritually Dangerous!
Michael Stoddard needs to step down as the pastor of NTBC. The church needs a new and positive leader or close the doors. Please help get the word out. There will be more spiritually scarred victims if we don't. Enough is Enough. More will follow. Current abusers names will be exposed. A prayer list of current victims will follow in future blogs. Please blog. Thank You.

17 comments:

  1. I have tried, for some time, to avoid getting involved in these types of comments. However, what you have just read from happychristian is true. I worked at NTBCS for 7 1/2 years. By the grace (yes, grace!) of God, I have been free that the tyranny of the spiritual abuse and legalistic stronghold for over 10 years. I still have nightmares about this man and his wife. My prayer is that others will see the truth as so many have and be released from this spiritual and emotional prison.

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  2. I had a discussion with my wife today about legalism. This environment goes well beyond that of legalism. Paul and Jesus talk about the Pharisees. NTBC breeds that type of enviroment. If your interested in being controlled, not making your own decisions, and being "used", then this environment is for you. If you are interested in the love, grace, and freedom found in Christ, look for another congregation - in fact, look for another denomination!
    Blessings,

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    1. So who are you Pianoman? I grew up there that place is my life. I pray God have mercy on you. How dare u cast judgement while u sit on the internet and bash a man of God. Don't hide behind a fake persona. Who are you?

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  3. I was the first student to ever graduate from NTBCS.I wish I had been the last. our education from Lynda Stoddard included: girls focusing on their physical atributes, and taught to get their way from men through deception and guile. The girls who did not fit the standard were publicly compared to others who were more outwardly beautiful. we were all expected to get married and have children - those w/o children were called hefers by MS even the HS girls who were supposed to be proud virgins.
    Linda sked me to diron a white shirt w a stain while she did her dovotional while doing her make up (i always wondered how one could read while applying eye liner and mascara?)when not done perfectly, she announced to everyone - that if she had wanted it done right she should have done it herself.this may sound harmless, but it was part of the abuse.bringing you up to bring you down and draw you in. apperantly I was the only one who was good enough to clean the bathroom too. she used my relationship with her older son to control me. until she decided that she could break me more. according to David she made him break up with me b/c I am a "spic" she had beat him all night over it. I confronted her and asked her if this was true.she denied everything , but i could see she lied. NXT time I saw D, he was heartbroken. She had beaten him again. Ahhh the sweet memories of who I thought was going to be my mother in law someday. David and I had planned to marry. I would be a widow today. David died of a heroin OD. He was in pain - deep emotional pain even back in high school, his parent's actions lead him to believe that there could not possibly be a God. Pstr Davis didn't even know def. of photosynthesis. He towered over me yellling red in the face bc i told him what the book said and i got a detention - he said the book was wrong. NTBCS is NOT an acredited school, they just take your money. Micheal I trusted you, i thought you were kind, i thought that what you did on the pulpit was somewhat of a persona, theatrics but the day of my "graduation" I was horrified. i saw who you really were. a bully. You sat in your big fancy plush office behind your well polished mahogony desk, and you told me that you would do your best to honor my request of kindness during my graduation. I believed you. Then you started. you insulted me , and the audacity I had to "tell you what to preach" I remember the pit in my stomach all too well, you pointed people out - literally - insulted my father, my family my friends. I can't recall how much longer i stayed, but I remember my LAST sunday. I purposefully wore something that was not acceptable. instead of a potato sack like outfit I wore a straight black summer dress with a small white flower print. clunky black heals and and a white shirt. I left and never turned back, my only regret: not saying goodbye to david.I always hoped that I would reconnect with him, and say sorry, sorry for not taking his word for it, his parents are not what they seem. and sorry for not exposing them earlier. I can't help but wonder if we would have been talking about this publicly before - maybe you would be with us...then again maybe you are. maybe you are rooting for us from Heaven. and for those of you who didn't live this consider yourselves blessed. please know that all of this is sadly true. I'm just sharing my personal experience. you will decide what is right for you.

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  5. I am sorry to hear of the hurt you all have written about. However I do not think that David an innocent by standard to all of this nor his cause of death needs to be included. David has a child who could easily google his name and see all this about his father. Also, If any of you that have posted on this site have children of your own - just think how you would feel if you were Mike. If God forbid somewhere along the path of this life you messed up and hurt them ultimately provoking them to mess up as well. Then you lose that child. How hurtful it would be for that to be plastered all over the internet? Have a little compassion. Anyone can fall or mess up, myself and you all included! Let's pray for Mike not turn around and act in a similar manner we are accusing him of acting. The Bible tells us to "not repay evil for evil". Let it go, move on! Do you really think "happychirstian" that Jesus is smiling down at this post? Genlty warning people about the church is one thing, maliciously ripping someone, their wife and INNOCENT children a part is another. This is SLANDER and GOSSIP all conveniently under the guise of "warning people". Much like Mike and his control was under the guise of "religion". So sad to see all the hurt in these comments but also sad to see the way it has been handeled. AGAIN - a gentle blog warning people is ONE thing. This goes far beyond that though. I pray the Holy Spirit will set you all truly free and to heal these deep woundings in each of you...sincere blessings to all...just felt to do what the Lord laid on my heart - I know he will do the rest.

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    1. john doe U R defending MPS,we are only exposing 'him' as GOD allows. rotten fruit & his wife loves to use the big F in her talks,how shameful !!!

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    2. Don't you dare try to bring God into what you are doing. Nothing about you bashing a man of God is acceptable. I pray God have mercy on you.

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  6. #2--also i am/was a D A V at the time of him defrauding me of my $$ + mark davis assaulted me in the church without cause (broke my rib) & denied it,it is on record with V A OPC ,newington ct. $ more imp. than people is their vision,'he' lives the Lucre life,,''his fruit '' is rotten. Amen !! i was a usher.

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  7. pastor stoddard: return MY DIAMOND ring i gave for addition to bldg. that never was built,it is stealing in Gods eye- i meant it for good & YOU used it for EVIL. make it right mike. get clean!!!

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  9. I have met some of the members and I tell you , I am free in Christ Jesus and sadly they are not . They all need prayer , God sees all and knows the heart , Jesus loved all and was not judgemental . Just pray because they need it

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  10. Happy Christian?? Yeah u sound really happy... you are a miserable person. Who do you think you are. Creating a whole blog bashing a pastor and his family. Regardless of how you feel u I have no right to make a spectacle of yourself and cast judgement on anyone. Since you are such a Christian I'm sure you know what happened to the children when they mocked Elisha(a man of God.)

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  11. What is going on? I was planning to attend this NTBC soon. And decided to do some research on the pastor. From what am reading about the past history . Leaving me undecided .

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  12. Jesus said those who love much forgive much. And I say those who love little forgive little.

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    1. It is hard to forgive when the pain is still there from the abuse that went on there even after so many years

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